XM Radio

Today, I was on Oprah XM Radio. Talked with Dr. Robin....I asked her how to implement all the ideas out there on how to NOT be such a people pleaser. She said that first you had to figure out why you are a people pleaser. It's usually out of fear. I know that I'm afraid of confrontation and people not liking me. She said that fear usually stems from a deep trauma or conflict. All I can think of is Debbie's death. I always thought that it was my fault. I thought that I had brought home the chicken pox and that's how she died....taking aspirin with the chicken pox. It wasn't until just a few years ago, that I discovered, through pictures, that it wasn't until about '68 that we all got the chicken pox. So, I didn't cause Debbie's death. Dr. Robin said to imagine what that "child" must've felt like. Not deserving, the shame, the guilt. And that people pleasing was my way of trying to make it up to everyone. That I've pretty much lived my entire life feeling as if I were to blame, somehow. I have to learn to let this go....maybe practice the Sedona method on this one! I'll try that tomorrow.